How to be True Partners for Life
What does a fulfilling life partnership look like? How does it work? What makes it successful?
Few of us can answer these questions with clarity. Most of us want a fulfilling life partnership and have little idea of how to create one. Even couples in successful long-term relationships have little insight into why they are successful.
The purpose of this article is to present and explain the primary Relationship Coaching Institute concepts of Vision, Requirements, and Needs, which are critical to a couple becoming successful “Partners for Life.”
Solvable vs. Unsolvable Relationship Problems
Relationship issues can generally be divided into “solvable” and “unsolvable” categories.
Solvable relationship problems are generally related to your Needs. The most common relationship needs areEmotional and Functional. Your emotional needs are what you need to feel loved. Your functional needs are what you need for your life to work in a way that fits for you, as determined by your Vision. Needs are negotiable, and there are many ways to meet a need. However, the test for a need is that if it were not met, you would experience an issue EVERY time, so needs are very important, and are the difference between being happy or unhappy in a relationship.
How to Double Your Romance with One-Way Dates
Over time, couples can easily develop routines that become ruts and it seems like romance goes out the window.
Does this sound familiar?
- Partner #1: “What do you want to do?”
- Partner #2: “I don’t know, what do YOU want to do?”
Then they end up doing pretty much the same thing they have done before.
Ten Dirty Secrets of Happiness
My observation is that we want to be happy, but don’t know how.
This problem has been exacerbated by the messages in movies, television, and other influential media, that promote a consumer-oriented, immediate gratification society. We seem to feel entitled to be able to buy and get what we want with little effort on our part. We have been conditioned that happiness comes from the outside, by having enough money, the car we want, the job we want, the partner we want. Then, when we get what we want, we find that we aren’t happy!
The Most Important Relationship Skill is NOT Communication!
The single most important relationship skill is not communication, it’s taking ownership.
Successful relationships require taking ownership of your “experience.”
WHAT IS YOUR “EXPERIENCE?”
Your “experience” is what happens inside your body and your mind in response to events. It is composed of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations.
Your experience is involuntary, it just “happens.” It’s neither good or bad or right or wrong. Your experience is always OK and valid.
Rules of the Road for Effective Communication
Nobody likes conflict, yet the most innocent words or actions can result in an argument, even with the best of intentions. Don’t wait for your next argument- read this article now to learn nine “Rules of the Road” for effective communication and conflict resolution in any relationship that are key to avoiding hitting “The Wall” which results in arguments and conflict.
THE RULES OF THE ROAD
In any communication there is a sender and a receiver. The risk of conflict is highest when the sender is experiencing an issue of some kind and needs to communicate about it. Before any effective communication starts, especially around an issue, it’s important to understand these ground rules.